Stay in Control During Stressful Situations

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is your worry affecting your work performance? Are you concerned about losing your job? Probably-- and it's not doing your health any good to worry about it either. Here are some strategies to keep you going:

1. Keep busy
With companies closing doors and laying off employees so quickly, you're fortunate to have the next few weeks to collect the information you need and set up a plan of action. First, list all the people at your current job who would give you a good recommendation when a new opportunity for employment arises. Next, evaluate your skills. Research jobs available in your area and try to determine what skills they would require. Since you are in human resources yourself, call some human resource contacts to determine if any openings will be, or are available. Begin updating your resume should you come across any job opportunities you believe you may be interested in.

2. Cooperate with the inevitable
Everyone has unexpected changes that occur in their lives. The office is closing, and you'll need a new job. Those facts are beyond your control, and worrying about them will only affect your work performance and have a negative affect on your health. However, what you can control, is how you will handle this situation, and have a positive outcome from this. This is a great time to look into a career change you may have been considering, or perhaps a new type of work environment, or just a different department to work in.

3. Decide just how much anxiety this is worth and refuse to give it more
You've realized your situation, and you've come up with a plan. Now, you'll likely find that concentrating on your future is going to be your main concern. Also, remember that you're a very capable worker, or you wouldn't have been with your current company for as long as you have. You have the skills to utilize at other companies.

4. Live in "day-tight compartments."
Handling each day as it comes will keep your workload manageable in size, and the situation will be easier to handle. Deal with each situation as it arises. Set goals for yourself each day, and as you complete them, you'll realize that you can handle more and maintain focus.
Realizing that change is a part of life, and not reserved as something that happens only to ourselves, we can gain control of a situation by working on how we will react to it. Worrying and panic may seem like the natural response, however in the long run, these reactions will only have a negative effect. Keep in mind to handle each situation as it comes, living day by day, and that taking control of the situation by making a plan for yourself will help you overcome this hurdle.

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Do you need an "one more hour"?

Click here http://www.outlooklifecoaching.com/1morehr
for a thought provoking flash movie.

To learn more about the creator of this movie, coach Stephen Brydson,
visit http://www.stephenbrydson.com/

Would you like to be able to connect with anyone, anytime and anywhere?

Would you like to be able to connect with anyone, anytime and anywhere? it's possible. How?

Follow these three steps:

1. Smile - it increases your face value

2. Make the initial effort
* Model the person - match their communication style and mirror their body language
* Be interested to be interesting - be interested in the person and their concerns and dreams
* Ask questions and listen - you'll be considered a wonderful conversationalist and you'll learn about this person's needs, values and governing rules

3. Be trusting and positive in your language - give them the benefit of the doubt and results oriented in your speech

Having established rapport the person will listen to you when you speak and will have discovered how to positively influence this person.

Your problem isn't how to establish rapport with anyone:
Your problem is your reaction to how to establish rapport with anyone.

QUOTATION:
More delightfully than any other passage in the Bible, this episode drives home the rapport between the Hebrews and their deity, a rapport which allows God to drop in for dinner and a sceptical old lady to laugh at him.

ATTRIBUTION:
On Genesis account of God's visitation to Abraham and his wife Sarah, declaring they shall have a son in their old age, 25 Dec 64

Many of the principles in these tips – plus much more – are available in Bob Tracz’s course,
How to Communicate with Power Diplomacy and Tact: Essential Skills for Effective Communication.

For more information, visit http://www.roberttracz.com/

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Consistently engage in metacognition—thinking about your thinking and related actions.

This sounds so simple but it is surprising how many people don’t practice metacognition.
It’s one of the most important skills any person can have and is essential for good managers.
Thinking about your own thinking helps you to understand your motivations, biases,
mistakes, desires and can help you be strategic about moving forward in all parts of your life,
personal and professional. To do this:

a. Reflect upon your actions, thoughts and plans, both task-oriented and strategic.
b. Practice constant evaluation of projects and goals.
c. Be ready to change based upon new input and reflection from colleagues and your
own employees.
d. Learn from your mistakes and your triumphs.
e. Recognize your emotions and their effects on the thoughts and actions—both of
yourself and others.

Set standards by which to measure results. This helps bring focus, formulate plans and set goals.

Read more at http://www.changethis.com/17.CriticalThinking

Crystal King provides a how-to think critically guide. With many choices in today’s world, managers need to be able to think critically and encourage their employees to do the same. While this manifesto specifically targets managers, it can help anyone become a more proficient critical thinker.

What will your self-development look like this week?

Replace your bad habit (watching too much TV) with a better one (commit to a weekly professional development plan)!
Sales Tip of the Week! Vol. VII # 23

Write down the names of your favourite TV shows. Rank them in order of value to you.

Every time the program in your last spot comes on - shut off the TV and invest that hour reading.

This week's self-development included reading Being the Best by Dennis Waitley (he reminds us that our failures can make great fertilizer to grow our success).

What will your self-development look like this week?

Until then...

Good Selling!

Tom Stoyan
Canada's Sales Coach
Dedicated to changing the way Canadian Professionals Sell & Coach
www.CoachingandSalesInstitute.com

The Power of Questions

Reading one of Sharif's blogs (see below), I remember my "salami technique" questions...
"What is the MOST VALUABLE USE of my time right now?", but I agree with Sharif that we need the BIG questions to create Big results. Whatever your technique, if you're willing to do whatever it takes to follow up and follow through, you will get your BIG results. However, anything can happen. Outcomes depends on you today, so keep an open , humble mind. The action you take (or don't take) will determine your result.

"The type of questions you ask largely determine the type of results you get. If you ask small questions, "How do I start a business?" "How do I publish a book?", you get small answers: "Go to your local government office and register a business", "Go to your local kinko's to publish your book".

On the other hand ask BIG questions and you create BIG results: "How do we put a computer on every desk and in every home?" (Bill Gates), "How do we create a Mega Book-Publishing Empire?" (Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield, co-creators of the Chicken Soup Series)

It takes just as much time to think small as it does to think BIG. Why not think BIG?"
http://www.sharifkhan.blogspot.com/

Sharif Khan is a speaker, coach, and author of "Psychology of the Hero Soul," an inspirational book on awakening the Hero within and developing people's leadership potential. http://www.herosoul.com/

Do you have what it takes to be successful?

Top people share many, if not all, of these qualities. See how many you have!

They have courage to take action with no guarantees of success.
They have persistence to endure in the face of every setback or difficulty.
They are responsible for their actions; they don't complain or make excuses.
They have the ability to dream big dreams.
They have a commitment to excellence in whatever they do.
They develop their unique talents and abilities.
They develop a clear sense of direction.
They have an intuitive sense and self-correct quickly.
They continuously strive to improve upon what they are doing.

Read more at "Secrets Successful People Know" by Beryl Meyer http://www.betterlifemedia.com/topic/work_0305art3.jsp